Wedding planning can be a lot of fun. I say this because I know firsthand. My fiance, Jay, and I are right in the middle of planning our own wedding. But I'm gonna be REALLY honest with you.
Sometimes it feels like wedding planning eclipses "normal" life to become this huge time & energy drain. Suddenly every waking moment is consumed by linen choices, playlists, color palettes, and design styles. And let's not even get started on budgets and guest lists. On more than a few occasions I've had couples contact me and say, "We are so OVER wedding planning!"
I thought so. Believe it or not, it's perfectly normal to get to a point where you're just over the whole process. The key is how you respond to that feeling. So I wanted to gift you with five simple ways to get over your wedding planning burnout.
1. Designate Wedding-Free Days
Take some time away from planning your wedding. Declare certain days of the week as off-limits for wedding talk. For obvious reasons, we vote for the weekend but also for less obvious ones: namely, that wedding vendors are usually working events for other couples and probably won't have time to talk with you at any length or in great detail.
Take advantage of your free time. Go on a date with your honey and don't speak a word about the wedding. Focus on how much you love one another and can't wait to get married. (Yes, it is possible to talk about your marriage without talking about your wedding!) Rekindle your romance. Get back to what's most important - who the two of you are as a couple. Give it a try. You'll honestly be amazed at how much your mood improves if you take periodic planning breaks.
2. Take A Longer Break
There are times when you need a longer mental break to recharge your planning batteries. Go on a long weekend together, or designate a whole week as "wedding free." Talk about anything but the wedding. That way when you come back to the table, you've got a fresh perspective and a little distance between you and all your grand wedding plans.
My fiance and I actually went about a month without speaking about our wedding. The first few days were quite strange, I admit. But after a bit, we both relaxed because our wedding plans weren't part of every single conversation. When we did get back into planning, we were both ready to dive back in to it, and honestly it was so much more fun than before.
3. Don't Be Superheroes
We all want to think that we're capable of taking on any and everything that life throws at us. But "Superhero Syndrome" can wreak havoc if you aren't careful. Smart couples know they don't have to do everything themselves. The easiest way to make the planning process easier is to hire a wedding planner. Let THEM be the ones that worry about the minute details of your wedding. There are two main ways a planner can assist you.
You can hire a planning firm from the outset of your engagement and receive full-service planning. The second is to opt for month-of wedding management, where the planner comes in near the end of the planning and let's you enjoy your last few weeks before your wedding.
Let's be really real here. There's no shame in saying you need help planning your wedding. Plus, when you hire a planner, you leave your friends and family free to enjoy your wedding themselves instead of burdening them with tasks that have to be completed for your wedding to be successful.
4. Try A New Hobby
Sometimes you just need to do something a little different. My favorite way to break out of a rut is to try a new activity or a hobby.
If you're an adrenaline junkie, do something adventurous. Go skydiving, rock climbing, zip-lining, or scuba diving. If you're a little more mellow, take an art class, try your hand at sculpting, or try gardening. For even more fun, try something as a couple!
5. Get Moving & Get Some Air
When you feel a melt-down coming on, one of the easiest ways to reduce your stress is to lace up your sneakers and get a little exercise in the great outdoors. No matter what's got you worried, it's hard to focus on negative thoughts when you're marveling at the beauty of nature.
While you're out and about, keep a mental list of 5-10 things that fill you with gratitude. The release of endorphins resulting from your exercise plus your running list of what makes you grateful is the perfect antidote to wedding planning overload. If you didn't exercise together, share the love by sharing your list when you get home.
Don't let wedding planning overwhelm you! Take a deep breath and remember exactly why you're getting married. Reconnect on a non "wedding" level and allow yourself to enjoy some great quality time together. You'll both be glad you did!
Let us know what you think of these wedding burnout tips in the comments below.