Today's post is the second in our 3-part Proposal Series , and we're talking about the 10 Romance Killers you should avoid at all costs. Trust us, these should never be included in your proposal plan!
Here's our 'must avoid' list when you're proposing:
Don't Propose At A Sporting Event
This one is a huge no-no! Unless you know for SURE that being featured on the video board surrounded by drunk, screaming fans is okay, we highly suggest skipping this one. The same thing goes for proposing at a concert, in a bar, or any other place where copious amounts of alcohol and large crowds are involved.
Don't Propose Without A Ring
Yes, we know, the QUESTION is much more important than the ring that goes along with it, but let's be real right now. A proposal seems a lot more legit when you present the ring to go along with it.
Not sure what your sweetheart wants? Buy a ring from a jeweler that includes an exchange policy. That way you can pick out a ring that you both love.
Don't Propose With Someone Else's Ring
The ring you gave to a former flame is a complete NO-GO. It's insulting and not worthy of your relationship to propose with a ring you gave to someone else. The only exception is an heirloom ring that has been passed down through either of your families. Or go the semi-custom route. Use the stone or setting from an heirloom ring and have the jeweler help you make it your own.
Don't Spill The Beans
You're super excited to be proposing, we totally get it. But if you blab to lots of people, the likelihood that some one will slip up increases exponentially. Then you'll be starting over from square one. Avoid this by sharing your plans with ONLY the people that must know to help you pull the proposal off. Let everyone else enjoy the surprise too!
Don't "Wing It"
If there was ever a time to be prepared in life, it's for your marriage proposal. Put some thought into what you want to do and say. Your relationship obviously means the world to you, so let that shine through. Write down what you want to say and remember - practice makes perfect!
Take some time to make sure you're both ready to take it to the next level. When you've thought everything through, make sure what you say matches your sentiments. Never make it sound like you're "settling" by asking them to marry you. Avoid phrases like, "I guess there's no time like the present." "We aren't getting any younger." "This seemed like a good idea a few hours ago." "Even though my friends object..." These are guaranteed romance killers and you'll be lucky they speak to you again, much less say yes.
Don't Copy Others' Ideas
This is no time to be a copy cat. Your relationship is unique and your proposal should be as well. Incorporate favorite songs, music, videos, or even movies. Proposing doesn't have to be complex but it does need to be original. You're declaring your love and commitment so make your proposal match how you feel about each other.
Don't Skimp On The Prep Time
We've already talked about not winging it, but we also want to talk about the importance of prep time. If your proposal involves multiple places or people to pull off, definitely take the time to prep for it. Plan every aspect of your proposal. Organize your tasks and keep track of what still needs to be done to achieve your goal. If planning isn't your strong suit, ask a trusted friend or hire a planner to help you.
Don't Put The Ring In Food Or Drinks
It might seem like a cute idea, but what happens if the ring gets swallowed? Spending all night in the ER is a total romance killer. If you're looking for a special way to display the ring, go for something like a one-of-a-kind ring box.
Don't Be Ordinary
The day you propose should be far from ordinary because it's not an ordinary day. Take the time to go the extra mile. Make it extraordinary - a proposal that gets talked about for years to come.
Your proposal education is almost complete - we've covered the 10 Romance Killers and how to Get It Right. Our final post in the Proposal Series will offer you some Over-The-Top Romance tips to help you take your proposal to the next level.
What do you think of our 10 Romance Killers? Let us know in the comments!